You don’t get to experience major successes frequently. You shouldn’t. Otherwise you would stop valuing them. But you definitely need minuscule wins from where you can derive your energy from. Most people tend to overlook these wins – but once you start noticing them, at least once I started doing it, the level of optimism was a lot higher.
This month has been a mixture of interview preparation, incredible learning and following routines. I tried segmenting my thoughts the best I could:
- Keep the clutter out and curiosity in:
As I had mentioned multiple times in my previous posts, one of the most important assets you will (and should) find here are the people you meet. That being said, it’s critically important to keep the clutter out. Don’t surround yourself with pessimists and people who clearly add more negative than positive energy in your life. We all come across and deal with such archetypes everyday – it’s not easy. That’s why you need an overwhelming number of those who inspire, encourage and motivate you. It’s very hard for me to answer the question on, ‘Who’s your inspiration?’. My latest inspiration was a talk from this Product Manager from Facebook. Prior to that, I was inspired in one of my classes at how the Professor kept it engaging with ease. And before, I was inspired by this acquaintance of mine who has been working on a brilliant start-up idea for close to two years now (will be writing an article dedicated just to his work – must read for all upcoming graduates).
So in short, find something meaningful in what you do and keep the clutter out.
- Social Media and sacrifices:
I have always been an active user of social media – apart from connecting you with people and biting away your time (We’re all victims), it gives you a chance to voice out your opinions on issues you care about, learn about what is happening around the world in a fashion that is compelling, and use it as a medium to give voice to even the slightest idea in your head.
Over the last few months, I have slowly decreased my usage of it, knowingly as well as unknowingly. This is a trend that I’ve seen a lot of people fall into, and I hope I don’t. It is illustrative of the sacrifices that you have to make at every step of the way – something to keep in mind whenever you take upon more than you can handle. And you know when you’ve taken more when you realize it’s been months since you took time to enjoy by yourself.
- Preparation and play:
Honestly, you feel overwhelmed a lot thinking about your future. You have to keep pushing – and have fun along the way. From the few interviews that I’ve had here so far, I learnt more than I could imagine: ranging from SQL to agile project management. People think interviews are a key to fit the lock where your internships and jobs lie. They are not. They are key to unlock all possible doors in your sight where you get to learn the gamut of possibilities.
On the same note, trying comes with its share of rejections, even when everything in your sight goes as planned. Staying optimistic at such times is painfully hard – but, one of the traits of positive people is that they don’t worry about things they can’t control.
- Adaptability is key to success:
This might not be the case of everyone – but definitely of many. In grad school, most of the simple pleasures you took for granted previously are gone. Initially you start out learning to be a Chef in India (I tried), and the first month you’re here you try to replicate all the scrumptious meals you had back in the good days.
But with time, you realize how much of a luxury it is to go through the process of cooking, and your enthusiasm and care decreases linearly. It reaches a stage where you need just enough to survive.
The same curve can be applied to a lot of other needs and wishes – doing laundry, playing your favorite sport, exploring the city. (Once again, there are still exceptions who manage time well and get to enjoy these simple pleasures)
This is not a bad thing. You can’t make time, only sacrifices. If nothing, this only makes you more adaptable, a quality that is looked for in every company, industry and place.
- Delving deeper into randomness:
I took a course on Psychology and Product Design this semester – the motivation behind picking it was influenced by many factors. But I ended up liking the course for different reasons. The Professor makes us read a lot, and I’m glad he does. I came across this concept of chance and randomness – the same old trite ‘You cannot control what happens to you (or anyone)’. If you assume that over a million events happen in your life over a span of 80 years, it is inevitable that at least a few dozen of them are extremely good (or bad).
I wanted to understand the relation of chance to the concept of fate a little further. While browsing, I came across a brilliant article that went in depth to talk about his relation – http://onewithnow.com/fate/
Researchers found that most of the processes (for example, breathing, moving, eating) are automatic, and are executed without much conscious awareness. Modern brain scans show that unconscious activity occurs a few seconds before the conscious activity arises in other areas of the brain. It appears that the subconscious mind decides first, even when we think we’re making a conscious choice.
When you look deeper at a Quantum scale, there seems to be no discernible order (remember the Uncertainty principle?). However, if we dig even deeper and go to the Plank state, order does seem to exist. What appears random or chaotic may be encoded into the most fundamental level of existence. This leaves little room for chance and choice. Who knows if we’ll ever be able to test this theory though. Cutting short this tangent to talk about science and fate, my underlying point was that if we accept our choices and agree that the consequences are indeed random, we save a lot of worry and time.
On similar lines, I love how this sentence covers it all – “Accept the things to which fate binds you and love the people with whom fate brings you together, and do so with all your heart. ~Marcus Aurelius”
One of my checklists for this semester is to release a video talking about the path followed to finding an internship, because I feel this is a prevalent topic that a lot of people seem to take immense pressure over. I would love any sort of ideas/suggestions!
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